Chapter 8 - Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?

Why do bad things happen to good people? One of the many cards I received throughout my journey had that written inside. The person sending it was dealing with a very ill husband in the hospital who passed right before the card got to me. Why DO bad things happen to good people? That is a great question I don't have the answer to, but sometimes bad things happen to good people to make them better.
First, you would not be given a battle if God, the Universe, or whatever is meaningful to you didn't think you could handle it and get something out of it. That doesn't mean you are a bad person, and you need to learn a lesson; for me, it just means that I have the potential to be better. We all have the opportunity for personal growth. Some are real go-getters who read every self-help book on the planet and listen to Anthony Robbins before bed at night. Sometimes, that is all a person needs to get to that six-figure income career or find the perfect mate. I was one of those self-help people. I read books, listened to CDs in the car, and took classes to become a hypnotherapist, but none of it stuck. It sounded great on paper, but when the rubber hit the road, I couldn't get the magic formula down to the many things I wanted to work on. One of the things that were not sinking in for me was feedback from other people. All the cards I received, and people reaching out to me made me realize one thing…I am not alone. I think too often we forget that others are put into our lives to help, and we end up putting ourselves on this island. If you are a spiritual person, you will be saying to the screen as you read this, "with God, you are never alone." This I understand, but sometimes it is nice to have someone to look at, hug, and nod their head showing you they understand or just letting you know through their gestures and words that they are there for you. If I was on a deserted island and could bring one thing, I would bring another person. I need the help of others telling me how I inspired them or how proud they are of me and how positive I am. People in our lives are there to tell us what we battle in our heads. Am I smart enough? Do I make other people happy? Does that person really care how I am doing today? YES! If they tell you those things, BELIEVE them! I WAS all of those things I was seeking out in the self-help aisle at Barnes & Noble; I just wasn't listening to the people telling me these things. Those people who build you up and love you are all part of your personal growth. THEY are your self-help books. Hey, if anybody knows you well enough to tell you what is great about you, self-help books only reinforce that. Every person in your life has a role in your life. You may not see it now, and some people may not have manifested their role in your life just yet, but they will. You are not alone in this life. Spiritually you are not alone, and here on Earth, you are not alone. For example, you may have a close co-worker that reminds you how appreciated you are at your job and how great you are doing…THEY play a role in your life. They are there to remind you of the things you may doubt about yourself in your head, and they squash that doubt like a bug. THOSE are the people that are put in your life to help you. They are living, breathing self-help books.
Many of you have asked me what it means to have tissue expanders. Today's modern medicine is quite impressive! Going from a surgery in mid-April where both breasts were totally removed (no breast tissue, no nipples, and completely flat) to late summer, having room for new breasts with a tissue expander is quite remarkable. I am comfortable with the breast size my doctor and I made for me, and I am ready to have my tissue expanders removed and permanent silicone implants put in. 
My posts have been transformational for me and therapeutic in writing to you all, but I also feel it's been educational to others. Maybe you'll be able to make a woman you know more comfortable because you can say you understand the process and you know someone who went through it. Onward and upward to the next step!

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